ALL WHAT YOU HAVE TO KNOW AND DO TO KILL DIVORCE STRESS – Part 1.
by Rossana Condoleo
I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.
– Charles F. Haanel 1866 – 1949
Writer, businessman, member of the American Society of Physical Research
Divorce can affect your mental balance up to the point that a wide variety of nervous disorders may occur, ranging from stress, panic attacks, depression, burnout, and psychosomatic illnesses, up to overreacting to any further problems that come your way so that you lose control of your life or part of it. All the procedures linked to a divorce are incredibly energy consuming. And this is a matter of fact. Hence, our strategy is to save and even multiply your energies. You are abandoning a painful highway and are going to feel lighter, happier, and conscious of your own strengths.
– First: Calm Down! DIVORCE STRESS
This can be achieved in different ways, and the good news is that these are all pleasant.
If you exchange a considerable amount of correspondence and have numerous meetings and calls with legal advisors, public authorities, and so on and so forth, assign this information and these calls and meetings a limited time and space in your mind and in your schedule.
I have opened my own correspondence with my lawyer only when I was calm enough to read it, but also soon enough not to get haunted by it. Do not postpone. Work at solving your problems as soon as they come; otherwise they pile up and look even drearier, more or less like a black, sticky mass of tar. This does not mean you will be always able to manage them in holy tranquility. Divorce can be a hard, nerve-tensing process, particularly when you’re married to a shark.
– Sustainable Self-Development: Happiness and Control
Most personal coaches advise you to control your reactions and maintain your poise in extreme situations. This would be nice! Some mentors warn that if you do not control your wildness, your wildness will control you. This is right! I agree. But I also think that self-development must be an attainable goal, which everyone can get—hot Latinos and cold Nordic people alike, so to speak.
Self-development must be sustainable, otherwise it remains just theory, something for selling books and making people plunge into the perennial dichotomy of humanity and perfection. If you start reading Buddha’s affirmations expecting in a weekend to become impervious to all the negative feelings listed in the English Oxford Dictionary, you might get disillusioned and think that you will never be able to reach higher level of consciousness. But this is the problem…
most of our reactions start in our unconscious mind, and you are able to talk to it and influence it positively using mainly the language of feelings,
as we saw [this is a book extract]. Blocking rage is good, and you are also able to do it in a number of ways and a number of times (not always, though). But preventing it from being generated is the key to successful, 100 percent control! This is achievable through a happy, light-hearted subconscious mind.
Control over your mind through happiness ensures that your healing process does´t affect your empathy.
Some people push themselves too far and start living in parallel realities. Happiness has the quality of wanting to be shared, so that everyone in your family will take advantage of it, along with colleagues, neighbors, friends, and all the people who come in contact with you. You will be more prone to love, to socialize, to take risks. You will be vibrating happiness, shedding light all over. The power of your words will be enhanced, thanks to your new charisma.
In this status of enlightenment, you will be hardly put down by life. And should it happen, you will be able to stand up again and fight hard the next round.
This chapter is pretty long! Do you want to read more? Then enjoy another small preview on Part 2. or read my Book!
DIVORCE = REBIRTH. Not only is HAPPY DIVORCE a road map for anyone negotiating the minefield of separation and divorce, it is also a Transformational Guide unfolding your True Self and Purposes. Measure your success in terms of accrued and permanent HAPPINESS and take your Self-Awareness to a New Edge. This will impact your decisions, your social & work life and, ultimately, your future. Learn more
DIVORCE = REBIRTH. Not only is HAPPY DIVORCE a road map for anyone negotiating the minefield of separation and divorce, it is also a Transformational Guide unfolding your True Self and Purposes. Measure your success in terms of accrued and permanent HAPPINESS and take your Self-Awareness to a New Edge. This will impact your decisions, your social & work life and, ultimately, your future. Learn more
DIVORCE = REBIRTH. Not only is HAPPY DIVORCE a road map for anyone negotiating the minefield of separation and divorce, it is also a Transformational Guide unfolding your True Self and Purposes. Measure your success in terms of accrued and permanent HAPPINESS and take your Self-Awareness to a New Edge. This will impact your decisions, your social & work life and, ultimately, your future. Learn more
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