DIVORCED OR SINGLE? DIVORCE WAS YESTERDAY… NOW I AM RE-SINGLE!

divorced-single

Divorced-single?

DIVORCED WAS YESTERDAY…NOW I AM RE-SINGLE! DIVORCED-SINGLE

by Rossana Condoleo DIVORCED-SINGLE

Yes, I am a Divorced Single Mom. I had waited for a long time to turn separated into divorced on my Facebook Info. Then, the day (2013) the Judge very officially, very pompously declared that my ex and I were no longer married, I couldn’t wait to let the world know about that. But what?! DIVORCED is not a status! Divorce is a sentence, a verdict, a judgment. “You are no longer married” does not mean that you are divorced! It just means that you are single again…RE-SINGLE!

OK, I do not like speculations, I do not play with words. So let’s see WHY it MUST be so…

DIVORCE is associated (at least before reading my books HAPPY DIVORCE or IF YOU WANT YOU CAN FLY!) with: pain, lack of love, cold,divorced-single quarrels, financial upheavals, changes, bad luck, “what the heck!”, “Hey…hope it never happens to me!” and so on. The word DIVORCE has no positive vibe, believe me! If you wear the word DIVORCED you may feel small, unlucky, different, poor, lonely, desperate, needy, sensitive, unhappy, angry, depressed, stressed, lost, confused, exhausted and so on and so forth. Now, think of the word…SINGLE! Ah…what a BREEZE!

SINGLE is associated with great times, fun, light, friends, dating, love, possibilities, openness, color, varied, perfume, cozy, comfortable, happy, warm, sparkling, active, creative, body, male, female, sensing, sensual, party time, and so on and so forth.

As soon as I discovered this concept, I turned my status on Facebook from DIVORCED into SINGLE! YES, sure, I did it right away!!! And what happened then? I started receiving tons of messages and pics from other singles: there is this special search on Facebook – GRAPH SEARCH, which allows you to seek for single friends of friends, or for single in your town and so on. Try it! Now, most of these pictures included a single man but not only… I saw a number of nice-desks-with-nice-armchairs-and-nice-view-on-the-bay (status-oriented men), kitchens (family oriented men), bathrooms (wellness-oriented men), bedrooms (sex-oriented men), gardens (nature-lovers) belonging to these singles who are eager to tell you “Look how nice I am, and what I can offer you!” And this is just great, and I appreciate it, immensely! But it should not be made randomly… OK some could be really interested in me, but most of the time I had the feeling that they just cut and pasted the same message thousands times. This is not my point here, anyway. Just for you to know the whole range of possibilities which opens up to you when you write SINGLE on your status line instead of SEPARATED or DIVORCED! divorced-single

I give lot of advice (see my books (HAPPY DIVORCE and IF YOU WANT YOU CAN FLY) to singles who are ready to open their heart and become / spot the perfect partner. BUT… frankly… as I am concerned, I am against getting to know my future partner for life online. I have my own reasons… I cannot cope with distance… no more. I want a person to be here, close to me, and invite me to go out, not to a chat room on my pc. So, in the end, in order to avoid having to politely reply and reject tons of messages from singles a day, I turned my status off. I have no status!!! I am neither divorced, not re-single. I am just me myself! For Facebook & Co. that’s a real a tragedy! In fact, it makes lot of sense for them to give you a label; they offer you status-targeted ads. As a SINGLE; they bombard you with promos about online dating agencies, body products to enhance the appearance and consistency of your goodies, and so on and so forth.

So, please, think about what means WEARING A STATUS, also in your everyday life, and chose whatever suits you at best, IF ANY! But remember, “divorced and single” is not a fair status, nor is “divorced”. Whatever you went through, NOW YOU ARE “SINGLE”! Divorced and single

DIVORCE = REBIRTH. Not only is HAPPY DIVORCE a road map for anyone negotiating the minefield of separation and divorce, it is also a Transformational Guide unfolding your True Self and Purposes. Measure your success in terms of accrued and permanent HAPPINESS and take your Self-Awareness to a New Edge. This will impact your decisions, your social & work life and, ultimately, your future. Learn more

DIVORCE = REBIRTH. Not only is HAPPY DIVORCE a road map for anyone negotiating the minefield of separation and divorce, it is also a Transformational Guide unfolding your True Self and Purposes. Measure your success in terms of accrued and permanent HAPPINESS and take your Self-Awareness to a New Edge. This will impact your decisions, your social & work life and, ultimately, your future. Learn more

DIVORCE = REBIRTH. Not only is HAPPY DIVORCE a road map for anyone negotiating the minefield of separation and divorce, it is also a Transformational Guide unfolding your True Self and Purposes. Measure your success in terms of accrued and permanent HAPPINESS and take your Self-Awareness to a New Edge. This will impact your decisions, your social & work life and, ultimately, your future. Learn more

Happy Divorce, by Rossana Condoleo

This pleasant, uplifting and easy read provides Single Moms and Dads with personal focus and entertaining guides, tips and exercises helping them rediscover a life above and beyond just being a parent/child's taxi service or cash dispenser. Learn more

This pleasant, uplifting and easy read provides Single Moms and Dads with personal focus and entertaining guides, tips and exercises helping them rediscover a life above and beyond just being a parent/child's taxi service or cash dispenser. Learn more

This pleasant, uplifting and easy read provides Single Moms and Dads with personal focus and entertaining guides, tips and exercises helping them rediscover a life above and beyond just being a parent/child's taxi service or cash dispenser. Learn more

If you want you can fly, by Rossana Condoleo

GLÜCKLICH TROTZ SCHEIDUNG ist eine praktische Navigationshilfe für Frauen und Männer, die sich durch das brutale Minenfeld von Trennung - Scheidung und danach zurechtfinden müssen. Mehr...

GLÜCKLICH TROTZ SCHEIDUNG ist eine praktische Navigationshilfe für Frauen und Männer, die sich durch das brutale Minenfeld von Trennung - Scheidung und danach zurechtfinden müssen. Mehr...

GLÜCKLICH TROTZ SCHEIDUNG ist eine praktische Navigationshilfe für Frauen und Männer, die sich durch das brutale Minenfeld von Trennung - Scheidung und danach zurechtfinden müssen. Mehr...

Geschenke für Geschiedene

POROSITÀ
Poesie

POROSITÀ è un tuffo in un'aia di poesie intense, struggenti, sensuali, talvolta anche bucoliche e sociali, stilisticamente varie, incalzanti ed a forte impatto emotivo. Ciascuno potrà ritrovarvi parte del proprio vissuto romantico-sentimentale, anche quello più nascosto a sé stesso.
Una raccolta che accende ed appassiona anche il lettore meno avvezzo a questo genere letterario. Continua a leggere...

POROSITÀ è un tuffo in un'aia di poesie intense, struggenti, sensuali, talvolta anche bucoliche e sociali, stilisticamente varie, incalzanti ed a forte impatto emotivo. Ciascuno potrà ritrovarvi parte del proprio vissuto romantico-sentimentale, anche quello più nascosto a sé stesso.
Una raccolta che accende ed appassiona anche il lettore meno avvezzo a questo genere letterario. Continua a leggere...

POROSITÀ è un tuffo in un'aia di poesie intense, struggenti, sensuali, talvolta anche bucoliche e sociali, stilisticamente varie, incalzanti ed a forte impatto emotivo. Ciascuno potrà ritrovarvi parte del proprio vissuto romantico-sentimentale, anche quello più nascosto a sé stesso.
Una raccolta che accende ed appassiona anche il lettore meno avvezzo a questo genere letterario. Continua a leggere...

Regali per persone romantiche
previous arrow
next arrow
previous arrownext arrow
Shadow
Slider